Other information from last weeks midwife visit

So the autopsy had me upset enough to forget that some of the other info I got when I saw the midwife was probably worth sharing too.   Number one was that if we decide to have another baby, and are still in NJ, I can still have them for my providers. I am happy about that because I just love them to pieces. Seriously. They are both very caring and Pam took such good care of me during my labor with Colm. How many women have their provider stay with them during labor, I mean in the room talking and being there, getting water or juice of I asked? Plus, she let me go home when I wanted to, so I was home just 4-5 hours after Colm was born. I was afraid I would be considered high risk and 'risked' out of their care. She said she wants to take care of me if we have another baby, because she doesn't want me to have to have the pain of explaining my situation. She wanted me to know that they would just be there for me, and help me get through it, and I know they would. They would do extra ultrasounds, etc. Be there if I needed an reassurance. That is good to know. Being surrounded by caring people during pregnancy and birth...and death is so important. The human touch is an amazing medicine.

Bad news, I have a femoral hernia. I have probably had it for ages. In 2000 I was doing a fitness test and when I was doing the sit-ups I had excruciating pain. So the hernia has probably been un-diagnosed for years even though I have been complaining about it forever. From what I have read the only treatment is surgery, and since I need to be able to do sit-ups, it will probably be the case for me.